Thursday, October 27, 2016
We often hear the term unconditional love and like the word love we often have different interpretations of the meaning. We have all been socially programed to view ourselves, others and the world in a certain way. Many are not aware that much of what they believe to be good or bad, right or wrong, beautiful or ugly about themselves and others have been socially programed into their subconscious minds from a very young age.
This is why the concept of love can be confusing to many and the concept of unconditional love is even more difficult for many to understand and appreciate. Conscious and unconscious conditions are often placed on our feeling of love for another. The right man or the right women has to be, act or look a certain way. Many lost opportunities for a meaningful relationship have been a result of this socially programed mis-interpretation of the right person to embrace as a partner or sometimes even a friend.
That is why loving someone unconditionally is not easy. It is first necessary to admit that you have been socially programed to see things in a certain way, then with an open mind you have to allow your conscience and unconscious mind to accept a person for who they are and for who they are not. There are no “Ifs” in a relationship based on unconditional love, it is what it is and that’s it; this of course takes courage.
In a socially programed society we are often motivated by what we believe others think of who and what we are; “one man’s heaven is another man’s hell” as the saying goes. There are many lonely people who are not in relationships because that can’t find that right person. One most also use common sense loving someone unconditionally does not mean you should subject yourself to abuse, physical or psychological.
In the society that we live in there will always be certain conditions in most relationships, it is rare to have a relationship that is based on a foundation of unconditional love, it is usually a process that takes time, and a large degree of self-awareness.
The motivational energy to have an unconditional love for another must be internal not external. In Taoism healing, we learn that unconditional love is the greatest healing energy humans possess. Clara Hale founder of Hale House proved that the unconditional loving touch of any human can heal.
During Harlem’s crack epidemic many of the lives of infants of addicted parents in Harlem Hospital were saved by strangers recruited by Mrs. Hale to volunteer to visit the hospital’s maternity ward to hold and show unconditional love to the crying crack babies who had no one to love and hold them.
The healing power of the Chunsoo Ki treatments that we give at our center is based on the concept of unconditional love, it takes time to develop the ability to provide unconditional love to those that you know, and it’s even more difficult to provide this energy to strangers. When this can happen however it provides healing energy to both the giver and the receiver.